Creating relationships

On relationships, love and you

Poetry and love go together. Poetry and falling in love go together. Poetry and heartbreak go together. Haven’t you written a poem at least once in your life? Maybe you didn’t even call it a poem. But that’s what it was. You were trying to express what you felt even if it really was beyond words.

Do you know Rumi? He’s the man that wrote amazing poems some 800 years ago - they are still bestsellers today. If you read his poems you can’t quite tell if he wrote them to his lover or to his God. You can’t quite tell if he at times appears drunk because he’s had too much wine or too much love.

Do you sometimes feel that your relationship with God - Nature - Love - Universe becomes so personal and intense that you need to express your feelings in words? And so write a poem because there’s no other way to say what you feel needs to be said?

Can you imagine doing it more often? Because it’s such a thrill?
If you do, it is my great, great pleasure to announce a
one-of-a-kind new book by Robert McDowell, titled: Poetry as Spiritual Practice: Reading, Writing, and Using Poetry in Your Daily Rituals, Aspirations, and Intentions

Robert’s book embodies Rumi’s truth and offers you creative
opportunities you’ve never had before!
You can order the book and also receive a cornucopia of bonus gifts worth thousands of dollars here from more than 80 bestselling authors, artists, teachers, mentors, coaches, and spiritual guides here.

I said this book is unique, that it’s not like any other book you
can find, but I’m not alone in making this claim. In fact, the kind
of praise this book has been getting just doesn’t come along every
day. Take a look at what these bestselling, spiritual guides have
said about it:

“In the way that Rumi allowed us to touch the heart of our soul,
Robert McDowell shows you how to easily create poetry that can
propel your spiritual journey beyond normal reality into cherished
mystic realms.”
–Denise Linn, author of Sacred Space and The Secret Language of Signs

“Reading this lovely guide awakens in you a deeper appreciation for
poetry and messages of the Spirit. It communicates a poet’s
soul–and helps you articulate that deep place of truth for yourself.”
–Caroline Myss, author of Entering the Castle and Anatomy of the Spirit

It doesn’t matter what faith or practice you follow! You’ll deepen and expand your spiritual work and your life work with the help of poems by others, and poems you learn to write yourself. Or as this bestselling author puts it:

“Poetry exposes me to a different way of experiencing the world.
When I read Poetry as Spiritual Practice I instantly translated the
poems into pictures. I can see fields of grain or rain in Autumn.
It is fascinating to see all the patterns and rhymes that can be
woven into language. I always enjoy learning about the different
ways that other people think of and experience the world.”
- Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures

“At the same time that Robert McDowell is teaching us to approach
the reading and writing of poems as acts of prayer in his
brilliantly insightful book, Poetry as Spiritual Practice, he is
quietly doing another astonishing thing: creating community.
McDowell’s exercises at the end of each chapter liberate poetry
from a solitary contemplative practice to a collective celebration
of the sacred. I will share this book with everyone I love.”
–Mirabai Starr, author of new translations of Dark Night of the
Soul by John of the Cross and The Interior Castle and The Book of
My Life by Teresa of Avila

If you want to awaken the spiritual poet within, you have a
beautiful and abundant opportunity here now !

What is it with freedom and dating? For some people dating - as opposed to a more dedicated relationship - is an important part of feeling free. Dating means the freedom to play, the freedom to enjoy the pleasant parts of a relationship without being burdened by expectations or obligations. Question is, does it really work that way or is it just an illusion, a sort of escape?

That depends. Real freedom has nothing to do with whether you prefer dating, monogamy or celibacy. Real freedom has nothing to do with what you do. It has everything to do with how you feel regardless of what you do.

Dating as such is not by definition an act of freedom. Dating is simply: dating! Getting to know other people, playing, experiencing, creating new relationships - or maybe not. It can be wonderful. It can be painful. It can be love. It can be anything. It can feel like freedom and it can feel like the exact opposite of freedom.

It all depends on you. On how you feel about you. Freedom means feeling free to be yourself regardless of circumstances. It means being at peace with yourself and knowing that the world is your home and that everyone on Earth is a friend of yours. Whether you’re dating them or not. :-)

Here’s an experience with a soulmate of mine:
The very day I met this man he wrote to his ex-wife: I’ve met my soulmate. I felt the same way. We decided to live together 3 weeks later. Married a few months later. Lived happily for 8½ year. And then it changed. Our love was the same - love itself doesn’t change, even if at times we may think it does. Our love was the same but our ways were not. Not anymore. So we separated.

Does it mean we were not soulmates after all? I believe we were. To me, soulmate is a unique feeling of deep resonance on many levels, from body to soul and back. It’s not something you can experience with everyone. Some people never get to experience it at all, not in an entire lifetime. Others experience it only once. But it doesn’t have to stop there.

I know the myth of your soulmate being your other half. It’s just a myth. It comes from a perception of yourself as half and a deep and painful longing to become whole. Here’s the bad news and the good news: you don’t become whole by meeting your other half and living happily ever after. You become whole through a process of becoming yourself, loving yourself unconditionally and expressing yourself as the whole human being that you are.

With a soulmate you feel that you belong together not because you are two halfs, but because you understand and resonate with each other in all kinds of ways: emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually. Your mutual love is very apparent to both of you. There’s no doubt.

That doesn’t mean that a soulmate experience always lasts forever. It can, but it’s not a rule. We all change you know. And sometimes we change in such ways that separation is necessary. I’m not talking about parting out of dissatisfaction or unwillingness to work with the relationship. I’m talking about parting because the power that brought you together is now taking you in different directions, whether you like or not.

Ending a soulmate experience can be very challenging and very confusing. It may lead to a life changing crisis. If in spite of all the pain and difficulties you stay open to yourself, your heart and your life, eventually you will find peace and joy and love again. Who knows, you may even create a new experience with a new soulmate.

One thing’s for sure though: this is not something you can plan or control. This is something that unfolds naturally as you unfold. So if you’re desperate for a soulmate experience don’t go hunting for it. Start by finding your peace and your love - possibly with the support from a coach with some soulmate experience:-).

This is just to let you know that the Sexy Spiritual Relationships site that I announced the other day will launch on July 29 instead. I like that. Tantra is not about rushing. Tantra is not about deadlines. Tantra is about being in the flow wherever it takes you and whenever it takes you there.

Meanwhile they have prepared 800+ articles posted in 23 article categories plus a growing collection of video and audio just to begin with. I’m convinced you will find lots of information, inspiration and help there - starting July 29, 2008.

Mark your calendars and be sure to visit the brand new Sexy Spiritual Relationships website during its launch on July 29.

I presented you for Al and Pala’s work in the post on Tantra. At the new membership website you will find many exciting features and more information than you could possibly use in one lifetime - everything you could ever need to create your own sexy spiritual relationship. Information is grouped into four major categories:

1. Relationship Happiness

2. Enlightenment for Two

3. Super Sex - Kama Sutra

4. Sacred Sex - Tantra and Taoist

I’m impressed by their material and by the way they balance sex and spirituality, body and light, pleasure and love. In a world where both sex and spirituality to one degree or another remain a taboo for most people, Al’s and Pala’s contribution is as rare as it is supportive.

In addition, they are partnering with a number of featured experts and practitioners who offer a wide range of services to assist members to heal, grow personally and professionally, to awaken spiritually, and of course, to create sexy spiritual relationships. I’m one of such experts and you will find me at the website under the menu option “Featured Experts”.

If you are in relationship now, or want to be in relationship in the future, this website is definitely for you. Al and Pala’s mission is to help couples learn how to create love that lasts for a lifetime together. They do this by teaching people how to use their relationship as a spiritual practice, ultimately leading all the way to Enlightenment for Two. The primary form of spiritual practice they teach is sacred sexuality, Tantric and Taoist.