Moving beyond the obvious choice

Is it better to choose love rather than fear, joy rather than sadness, light rather than dark? The answer seems obvious. Yet there comes a time when we are called to move beyond these choices….

Our joy and freedom is in our wholeness. Love and joy don’t choose. Are we willing to learn to embrace rather than evade?

I will be sharing more specific resources to support this journey. Stay in touch through the Awakening To Joy newsletter at HalinaGold.com/welcome (you will get it as well as the “Finding Joy Every Day” ebook).

Or, if you feel you’re ready to move to that next level of freedom and joy, I’m ready to support you here.

Getting to the next level? The paradox…

First, a disclaimer: I am not an ambitious, driven personality as such.  🙂 So when I speak about the next level and getting there it’s not about that. Rather, it’s about the journey to the next level of freedom, of joy, of your life’s work, of a relationship perhaps – whatever matters to you. And there’s a paradox  there… Listen in…

Below are some key points from the video:

Next level coachingGetting to the next level is not like climbing the steps of a ladder. Rather, it’s a spiral- like unfoldment.

So how do we get to the next level?

There is a paradox there, because the person that we will become at the next level sees things from a more expansive perspective than the person asking the question, so how can the one asking know how to get there? Based on experience! And the experience is… Well, there we have another paradox:

The movement towards the next level is happening as we stay where we are. In other words, as we are fully present in this moment,  receiving the full gift of the here and now

Eckhart Tolle speaks of our tendency to trade the present movement for some future moment. Yet there is no better, more fulfilling experience than that of being present here and now.

And even if the next level can, by its nature, feel more expansive, joyful, fulfilling… It can only happen through our presence there – which starts with our presence here!

The good news (well, it’s all good news really…), but the really good news 🙂 is that there was a time where we knew exactly how to do this. We were born as the masters of growth!

Next level coachingChildren are masters of reaching the next level, being fully present while growing and building like no one else can.

They and we know, instinctively, that the art of growing lies in the being fully here and now. And then things unfold, not because we need them to but because we are savoring the perfect magic of here and now.

Of course, what we have to be present to here and now and what we grow and build these days is so much more than sand slots… This is not for the faint of heart, as they say. 🙂 If you feel you need or want support for your journey, here are some options 

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Fulfillment of needs and awakening

Many of us are in transition – something is ending, something new is coming but is only at its very beginning or perhaps not even that. And there is a theme there, about fulfillment of needs – not having our needs fulfilled. Behind the theme there is a much bigger calling to have our needs fulfilled in ways we didn’t even know where possible. The invitation is to take the next step, whatever that is for you.

Below are a few key points from the video. Watch the video to get the benefit of the energy, the deeper insights and real life examples. Also, please note that what is shared here is not about perfection, or what’s right or wrong, it’s about exploring what is going on in our lives at this time (wherever we are on our awakening journey) and what the real potential is there.

The fulfillment of our needs is absolutely necessary. But how? The paradigm of our current culture is that needs (for love, for money, or anything else) have to be fulfilled by someone or something external.

Living with and believing that paradigm makes us completely dependent on the limited resources of other people, work, nature etc. It makes us feel limited and unfulfilled, more or less.

Through a great deal of our life that’s just how it is and we have no other choice than to seek fulfillment through other people, external work etc.

But at some point we realize that behind the pain, the frustrations or just dissatisfaction due to unfulfilled needs there is a bigger calling and a bigger potential: To experience an actual fulfillment through our wholeness.

It doesn’t mean that we stop relating to other people, or stop work or stop receiving resources from nature. But it does mean that all our relationships with everyone and everything outside ourselves can begin to change.

We discover that there is necessity for knowing our wholeness and oneness and meeting the world from there.

Instead of seeking love from a space of lack we can share our presence and experience more love together. Instead of seeking money from a space of lack we can serve from our abundance and experience more abundance together. Instead of seeking natural resources from a space of lack we can experience a rich and lasting relationship with the Earth.

Our orientation towards the world can change from getting our needs fulfilled to following the flow of life, being more present and then sharing from a place of more wholeness and less lack.

Again, we are all in a process, we’re learning. Sometimes we have no choice but seeking fulfillment of needs outside and that is fine. But sometimes we do have a choice and are reminded of the potential of seeking within first. And when we do we get a chance to find the joy, beauty, the love, the expansion, the abundance in ways that we didn’t even imagine where possible.

And then, whatever we find outside is on top of the inner fulfillment and it’s just so sweet and beautiful. But we’re not longer dependent and that means that we can now see and enJOY so many more dimensions in ourselves and in others.

What could be your next step in that direction?

If this feels right,  here’s how I can support you in expanding and enJOYing your wholeness.

Fulfillment of needs from within

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Finding joy in life: the inconvenient truth

There are many ways of finding joy in life.  Strangely, the most powerful ones are actually those we tend to avoid. And there is a reason for that…

Finding joy in life requires that the inner energy of joy flows higher and richer. But that is only possible if we create more space for it to flow! Here are 2 fundamental ways to make it create that space:

  • Create more time for joy in your daily rhythm
  • Create more space for joy in your energy flow

Why finding joy in life can  be hard

Creating more space for the joy energy to flow means addressing whatever takes that space now but is not flowing. It takes resolving energy blocks in other ways.

More often than not these energy blocks, or joy blocks, relate to our core wounds, our issues, our themes.

The challenge – which I have seen in my work with clients and also in my own life – is that we are reluctant to go there!

Many if not most of you reading this have already spent quite some time and energy addressing these issues. If you’re like most people, you prefer to believe that you have done the work already and there’s no need to go back there. Who wants to experience that pain again…  But here’s the inconvenient truth:

When we refuse to go deeper we prevent ourselves from reaching higher levels of joy, in all areas of life

The thing is that there is always a deeper level of understanding and a deeper level of healing. Not going that next step deeper will simply prevent you from freeing the energy, the potential, the free space for your joy to flow. And that again will prevent you from experiencing that next level of freedom, of love, of joy, of creativity, of true fulfillment.

Every time you dare to dive deeper, you open up to more gifts, including powerful and wonderful gifts you didn’t even know were waiting for you!

Ready to dive deeper and find your next level of joy? Consider this:

As life always happens for you, it provides you with two ways to go deeper

  • Something or someone triggers pain in you, through criticism for example.  But you can turn criticism to freedom and joy.
  • You experience a reflection in the world that shows where you may be stuck or judging yourself. You can choose to work with that in conscious and freeing ways that most people aren’t aware of, actually.

Don’t let the immediate comfort of not addressing those issues stop you from experiencing the far more fulfilling joy, love and freedom that is your birthright!

And, as always, remember: you are not alone in this! I am here to support you.

Finding joy in life: 2 ways

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Turn criticism to freedom and joy

Is it possible to meet an unpleasant experience of “weirdness” and even turn criticism to freedom and joy?


When we open to an aspect of ourselves that we have been out of touch with for many years it can be experienced as very uncomfortable. It may take some work before we can SEE the gift in the experience.

We have so many ideas about what is the truth about us or not, and especially when it comes to what we experience as discomfort and even more so criticism, our natural reaction is to defend ourselves.

It doesn’t help us much though, not in the long run. Defensiveness constricts our heart and our energy, and with that prevents us from SEEing what is there to see, and uncovering the hidden potential and joy that is there too.

Whereas saying yes to criticism, as challenging and even counter-intuitive as it may seem, and doing it in an open sort of way yet without self-judgement does the opposite: It expands our energy, enables flow, and opens for a deeper experience of the beauty of our wholeness!

Turn criticism to freedom – an invitation to a bold practice

When meeting criticism, try to say yes to whatever is being said about you as a part of you, an aspect of you. An aspect that you are willing to SEE and explore, a part of your wholeness, and from there a part of our Oneness. There you have the potential to go from criticism to freedom and joy. And…

I know that while it is a tremendously powerful and freeing path,  it’s not exactly easy…. If you need help with a specific situation in that respect, or if there’s anything else i can help you with, I’m here for you!  Here’s how I can support you in the process and on your path from inner and outer criticism to freedom and joy

Turn criticism to joy

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Let it grow – let it die

In life, in nature, abundance isn’t tidy. It’s not like in a garden – it’s magnificently messy. And that’s how growth and transformation happen!

The apparently imperfect grows and contributes with its presence until it’s time for it to die. And then it contributes with its nourishment for something else to grow.

Our human mind believes in control, but it’s really a way to limit the power of life and death, the power of abundant growth.

Awakening and freedom do not come from removing what we believe is weeds – they come from allowing for a natural unfoldment.

And of course, the human journey is special in its own ways, and acceleration of growth is needed and available.

The SEE Approach is a powerful transformational tool in this respect. It’s available with all the coaching programs here.

When you need help for your next step towards joy

Have you ever experienced that you walk through life and all of a sudden it’s like there’s a wall that rises in front of you, preventing you from moving forward… How are you supposed to take a next step, and what is it?

That’s what I experienced a little while ago. And then I received the help I needed in the form of a guidance and a decision. This way I knew what my next step was and could move on.

But then, further down the road I encountered another road block. So I thought. Except, what I learned previously helped me now and enabled me to take yet another next step on my own.

That next step took me right into an experience of freedom! Without my circumstances changing. Just like this. It amazed me…

You can find that next step on your own, but sometimes it will take time and hardship. Or you can reach out for help (just like you help others sometimes). You deserve it, and you don’t have to do it all on your own.

I’m here to help you take your next step. It’s quick. It’s powerful. It’s even affordable, if that is of significance for you.  Here’s how.

Oh, and this way you will also get access to the SEE Approach, a super simple and powerful tool that you can take with you as you move through other challenges along the road.

Let me know if you have any questions!

Your awakening journey: the next level

Understanding and honoring the next level of your awakening journey…

There comes a time when the awakening journey is no longer about pain. At the very core of our deepest transitions things get subtle and powerful at the same time. They don’t happen the way they used to… Listen in!

Here’s an overview of the journey and how it’s reflected in our inner work, alone or with a coach/mentor

  • Initially, the personal and spiritual journey is motivated by pain. It is intense, big, loud, explosive…
  • Then, it becomes a yearning for freedom, there are periods with heavy work and periods of more mellow work
  • Eventually it becomes all about living in joy and light and because of that…
  • It is motivated more and more by wanting to express our ultimate calling and our unique, real self
  •  This is were we meet our core issues in new ways – and they are very subtle. They hold the secret and the lock and the key to the transition between who we are in the world and who we are meant to be
  • At that point deep transformations don’t feel like a volcano, they way they used to. They’re more like the butterfly effect – small movements resulting in big changes
  • If you don’t do that deep subtle work you will be stuck in a very comfortable place, but stuck nevertheless and unable to express your true potential
  • At this point coaching/mentoring work is less and less problem oriented. It is more about creating a profound, energetical space where the hidden “butterflies” can arrive and share their secrets so to speak. And that’s where we’re being taken to the next level of our awakening.
  • At this time dedication to the process is essential because it’s not being pushed by something external anymore. It comes from the knowing: I am more than I express, I am meant to express who I really am. I choose to get the support that is necessary for that kind of growth.
  • The awakening continues, there is always the next level. More joy, more love, more light, more of you!

Contact me here if you’d like to explore how I can support you on your awakening journey.

Inner work – when is it too much or too little?

Most of you here are dedicated to doing the inner work. But how much is enough? When is it too much or too little?

What a bee told me about inner work…

The other day I was a talking with a wise woman who I’m lucky to know who’s an artist and whose name is Franny. We had planned a longer conversation (on Zoom) and just as we started I heard the characteristic sound of a bee… And a bee it was, on Franny’s end of the world. And then she told me that she found that when she had just one window open, then a bee would fly in and could not find the way out. Whereas when she had two windows open, a bee would find their way out right away.

Isn’t that strange? One window open – they cannot find their way out. Two windows open – they go with the flow and fly out.

As soon as she shared that we both thought: there is a metaphor there…

So I googled the symbolic meaning of bees and found out that they (not surprisingly) represent work. And that their appearance signifies too much work or too little work, and a need to balance that.

Now, since we’re on an awakening journey here, I choose to interpret it as inner work, in this case. Because, also in the sphere of inner work it can be too much or too little…

I then came to think that when a “bee” enters our inner world our first reaction is “I don’t want it to sting me, I don’t want it to hurt”. And that means that our natural reaction is to “open up the other window” and get the “bee” out of the way, the sooner the better.

Our most common reaction to pain is not the best

In other words, the most common reaction to any pain, discomfort or challenge we encounter is to grab whatever tool or method works for us to get the problem out of the way, to make it disappear, the sooner the better.

However, when we do that we miss the gift of the bee.

When something comes into our lives, even when it is painful or difficult, it comes with a gift. That is the meaning of “life is happening for you, not to you”.

The art of it then is to open “the second window”… But not too early and not too late.

Don’t miss the sweetness of the gift!

Inner workLet’s not do it so quickly, that we actually miss the gift or the message in the experience we’re having.

And, let’s also not get stuck in it too long, so that we miss what could come through “the other window”, the light of awareness, of presence, of insight, of wisdom, of love, of inspiration and of transformation.

In short, when you experience something, take some time to SEE it, to experience it, to feel it, so that you can receive the gift of them. And then open up to something bigger, to the more expansive energy that will help you transform and move on.

And for that I’ve created the SEE Approach Course here.

Check it out – it’s a super powerful and yet simple tool for moving through a challenge, getting the gift and moving on at just the right pace.

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