Finding joy in life: the inconvenient truth

There are many ways of finding joy in life.  Strangely, the most powerful ones are actually those we tend to avoid. And there is a reason for that…

Finding joy in life requires that the inner energy of joy flows higher and richer. But that is only possible if we create more space for it to flow! Here are 2 fundamental ways to make it create that space:

  • Create more time for joy in your daily rhythm
  • Create more space for joy in your energy flow

Why finding joy in life can  be hard

Creating more space for the joy energy to flow means addressing whatever takes that space now but is not flowing. It takes resolving energy blocks in other ways.

More often than not these energy blocks, or joy blocks, relate to our core wounds, our issues, our themes.

The challenge – which I have seen in my work with clients and also in my own life – is that we are reluctant to go there!

Many if not most of you reading this have already spent quite some time and energy addressing these issues. If you’re like most people, you prefer to believe that you have done the work already and there’s no need to go back there. Who wants to experience that pain again…  But here’s the inconvenient truth:

When we refuse to go deeper we prevent ourselves from reaching higher levels of joy, in all areas of life

The thing is that there is always a deeper level of understanding and a deeper level of healing. Not going that next step deeper will simply prevent you from freeing the energy, the potential, the free space for your joy to flow. And that again will prevent you from experiencing that next level of freedom, of love, of joy, of creativity, of true fulfillment.

Every time you dare to dive deeper, you open up to more gifts, including powerful and wonderful gifts you didn’t even know were waiting for you!

Ready to dive deeper and find your next level of joy? Consider this:

As life always happens for you, it provides you with two ways to go deeper

  • Something or someone triggers pain in you, through criticism for example.  But you can turn criticism to freedom and joy.
  • You experience a reflection in the world that shows where you may be stuck or judging yourself. You can choose to work with that in conscious and freeing ways that most people aren’t aware of, actually.

Don’t let the immediate comfort of not addressing those issues stop you from experiencing the far more fulfilling joy, love and freedom that is your birthright!

And, as always, remember: you are not alone in this! I am here to support you.

Finding joy in life: 2 ways

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Turn criticism to freedom and joy

Is it possible to meet an unpleasant experience of “weirdness” and even turn criticism to freedom and joy?


When we open to an aspect of ourselves that we have been out of touch with for many years it can be experienced as very uncomfortable. It may take some work before we can SEE the gift in the experience.

We have so many ideas about what is the truth about us or not, and especially when it comes to what we experience as discomfort and even more so criticism, our natural reaction is to defend ourselves.

It doesn’t help us much though, not in the long run. Defensiveness constricts our heart and our energy, and with that prevents us from SEEing what is there to see, and uncovering the hidden potential and joy that is there too.

Whereas saying yes to criticism, as challenging and even counter-intuitive as it may seem, and doing it in an open sort of way yet without self-judgement does the opposite: It expands our energy, enables flow, and opens for a deeper experience of the beauty of our wholeness!

Turn criticism to freedom – an invitation to a bold practice

When meeting criticism, try to say yes to whatever is being said about you as a part of you, an aspect of you. An aspect that you are willing to SEE and explore, a part of your wholeness, and from there a part of our Oneness. There you have the potential to go from criticism to freedom and joy. And…

I know that while it is a tremendously powerful and freeing path,  it’s not exactly easy…. If you need help with a specific situation in that respect, or if there’s anything else i can help you with, I’m here for you!  Here’s how I can support you in the process and on your path from inner and outer criticism to freedom and joy

Turn criticism to joy

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Let it grow – let it die

In life, in nature, abundance isn’t tidy. It’s not like in a garden – it’s magnificently messy. And that’s how growth and transformation happen!

The apparently imperfect grows and contributes with its presence until it’s time for it to die. And then it contributes with its nourishment for something else to grow.

Our human mind believes in control, but it’s really a way to limit the power of life and death, the power of abundant growth.

Awakening and freedom do not come from removing what we believe is weeds – they come from allowing for a natural unfoldment.

And of course, the human journey is special in its own ways, and acceleration of growth is needed and available.

The SEE Approach is a powerful transformational tool in this respect. It’s available with all the coaching programs here.

When you need help for your next step towards joy

Have you ever experienced that you walk through life and all of a sudden it’s like there’s a wall that rises in front of you, preventing you from moving forward… How are you supposed to take a next step, and what is it?

That’s what I experienced a little while ago. And then I received the help I needed in the form of a guidance and a decision. This way I knew what my next step was and could move on.

But then, further down the road I encountered another road block. So I thought. Except, what I learned previously helped me now and enabled me to take yet another next step on my own.

That next step took me right into an experience of freedom! Without my circumstances changing. Just like this. It amazed me…

You can find that next step on your own, but sometimes it will take time and hardship. Or you can reach out for help (just like you help others sometimes). You deserve it, and you don’t have to do it all on your own.

I’m here to help you take your next step. It’s quick. It’s powerful. It’s even affordable, if that is of significance for you.  Here’s how.

Oh, and this way you will also get access to the SEE Approach, a super simple and powerful tool that you can take with you as you move through other challenges along the road.

Let me know if you have any questions!

Your awakening journey: the next level

Understanding and honoring the next level of your awakening journey…

There comes a time when the awakening journey is no longer about pain. At the very core of our deepest transitions things get subtle and powerful at the same time. They don’t happen the way they used to… Listen in!

Here’s an overview of the journey and how it’s reflected in our inner work, alone or with a coach/mentor

  • Initially, the personal and spiritual journey is motivated by pain. It is intense, big, loud, explosive…
  • Then, it becomes a yearning for freedom, there are periods with heavy work and periods of more mellow work
  • Eventually it becomes all about living in joy and light and because of that…
  • It is motivated more and more by wanting to express our ultimate calling and our unique, real self
  •  This is were we meet our core issues in new ways – and they are very subtle. They hold the secret and the lock and the key to the transition between who we are in the world and who we are meant to be
  • At that point deep transformations don’t feel like a volcano, they way they used to. They’re more like the butterfly effect – small movements resulting in big changes
  • If you don’t do that deep subtle work you will be stuck in a very comfortable place, but stuck nevertheless and unable to express your true potential
  • At this point coaching/mentoring work is less and less problem oriented. It is more about creating a profound, energetical space where the hidden “butterflies” can arrive and share their secrets so to speak. And that’s where we’re being taken to the next level of our awakening.
  • At this time dedication to the process is essential because it’s not being pushed by something external anymore. It comes from the knowing: I am more than I express, I am meant to express who I really am. I choose to get the support that is necessary for that kind of growth.
  • The awakening continues, there is always the next level. More joy, more love, more light, more of you!

Contact me here if you’d like to explore how I can support you on your awakening journey.

Inner work – when is it too much or too little?

Most of you here are dedicated to doing the inner work. But how much is enough? When is it too much or too little?

What a bee told me about inner work…

The other day I was a talking with a wise woman who I’m lucky to know who’s an artist and whose name is Franny. We had planned a longer conversation (on Zoom) and just as we started I heard the characteristic sound of a bee… And a bee it was, on Franny’s end of the world. And then she told me that she found that when she had just one window open, then a bee would fly in and could not find the way out. Whereas when she had two windows open, a bee would find their way out right away.

Isn’t that strange? One window open – they cannot find their way out. Two windows open – they go with the flow and fly out.

As soon as she shared that we both thought: there is a metaphor there…

So I googled the symbolic meaning of bees and found out that they (not surprisingly) represent work. And that their appearance signifies too much work or too little work, and a need to balance that.

Now, since we’re on an awakening journey here, I choose to interpret it as inner work, in this case. Because, also in the sphere of inner work it can be too much or too little…

I then came to think that when a “bee” enters our inner world our first reaction is “I don’t want it to sting me, I don’t want it to hurt”. And that means that our natural reaction is to “open up the other window” and get the “bee” out of the way, the sooner the better.

Our most common reaction to pain is not the best

In other words, the most common reaction to any pain, discomfort or challenge we encounter is to grab whatever tool or method works for us to get the problem out of the way, to make it disappear, the sooner the better.

However, when we do that we miss the gift of the bee.

When something comes into our lives, even when it is painful or difficult, it comes with a gift. That is the meaning of “life is happening for you, not to you”.

The art of it then is to open “the second window”… But not too early and not too late.

Don’t miss the sweetness of the gift!

Inner workLet’s not do it so quickly, that we actually miss the gift or the message in the experience we’re having.

And, let’s also not get stuck in it too long, so that we miss what could come through “the other window”, the light of awareness, of presence, of insight, of wisdom, of love, of inspiration and of transformation.

In short, when you experience something, take some time to SEE it, to experience it, to feel it, so that you can receive the gift of them. And then open up to something bigger, to the more expansive energy that will help you transform and move on.

And for that I’ve created the SEE Approach Course here.

Check it out – it’s a super powerful and yet simple tool for moving through a challenge, getting the gift and moving on at just the right pace.

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Transformation In Nowhere Land

Easter is a time of transformation.

It is so symbolically, historically, and most of us can feel it energetically as well. I see it in my life, in the lives of my clients, of people I know, of friends… There is a dying and there is a renewal. There are old structures falling apart and something new is showing up. And sometimes you can experience that it in a sense happens all at the same time.

There are perhaps aspects of your life that seem to fall apart and other aspects that already are rising. And it can be a weird feeling.

And another feeling that can be weird is the feeling that I noticed or have been noticing for a little while but I dove into yesterday. I was doing “my creative hour”: Each day I take an hour to just be in creative flow. It’s not for work, it’s not for projects, it’s not for anything it’s just to let creativity flow.

The empty space and beyond

The experience I’d like to share that I hope will resonate and  somehow inspire you is this: While I was writing about it, there was a feeling of being in an empty space, an empty space to explore, and empty space where something new can grow but without any “marching orders”. Just an empty space.

But at the same time there was the feeling, the vision that I was in that big space but on the horizon of it there was a lot happening. It was almost the opposite of the space I felt I was in. There was a lot of activity, a lot of energy, a lot of movement. Whereas in that moment where I was writing I was in a space where there was no movement and not much energy really and just kind of stillness.

It is all One

And then I looked out of the window and I saw a tree, and then I saw some other trees, and then I saw birds, houses, people… And I had this beautiful experience that all of this is happening at the same time. And that we are all One, with all of this that is happening at the same time.

And what it really means is that we may at times focus on the emptiness, or on the movement, or on the death, or on the rebirth… But all of it is happening at the same time! And it is all part of us. We just kind of move our focus from one thing to another. And when I “not think” about it (because it is not thinking)… but when I get this feeling of this richness of life that is happening even as death is happening… Even as things are falling apart, something else is growing up. And the fact that it’s all happening at the same time and it is really all one and it is really all connected, and it is really all you and me…

For some reason that fills me with such a sense of beauty, with such a sense of love, with such a sense of gratitude for the richness of life. Even as it is dying. Even as it is weird. Even if we don’t understand what it is yet. Even if we don’t have a sense of direction in that moment. Even if our circumstances are changing and we don’t know how. There is such a richness and such a beauty to it.

You are on your path

It is a place in consciousness. It is not a chaotic place, non matte how chaotic it looks. There is really a deeper wisdom and a deeper guidance and a deeper leadership happening and leading us and taking us where we are meant to go. One step at a time, and sometimes by standing still and sometimes even by going backwards. It doesn’t matter which, it’s still the same path and it is created for us and we are supported on it .

And so there is joy in knowing that and there is faith in knowing that and I just wanted to share that joy with you and share that love with you and share that faith with you. That knowing that wherever you are, wherever you go, even when you don’t know where you go, you are right on your path, you are right on your way where your heart really longs to be.

The SEE Approach is my preferred tool for transformation. It is simple yet powerful. And it’s waiting for you here.

If you prefer to work with me individually instead, tell me why here.

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And then it happens – equanimity

And then it happens. The things we have heard about and read about happen. And it looks as we saw it described, but it feels differently. Because now we’re not at a distance from it, now it is in the life we live. Some places fires are burning. Some places people are attacking other people. Some places relationships as we knew them are dying.

That which was is falling apart. That which we wait for and know to come, hasn’t appeared yet.

And we are changing too. Somehow, we cannot quite recognize ourselves anymore.

We’re in unknown territory where indecision rules. Which way to turn? What to do? How to be in it for ourselves, and for those we care about, and for the world?

Perhaps the answer is to stay in indecision in a sense. Embrace the pain of the dying.  Remember that rebirth is inevitable. And stay in equanimity.

Play the role that you have come here to play. And stay in touch with that which never dies and is never born. Allow the greatness in you to express itself through you now, more than before.

Be the agent of the progress that is taking place. Be the Truth Keeper. Be the Love Keeper. Be the Joy Keeper.

Be You!

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Awakening through the 8 stages of the human journey

Pain To Joy 8 Stages

John Lennon’s beautiful “Imagine” is like an awakening song for the entire world. By now, most of us have heard it and know it well. 

You may say that I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us, and the world will be as one”

What you may not know is that before John Lennon was able to sing those words, he had to move through an entirely different stage. During that he sang (in “God”)

“God is a concept by which we measure our pain”

I don’t agree!… yet it is strikes a chord of something, doesn’t it.  We all know pain. We’ve known it since forever.

As children we just tried to survive it, to cope

Later, as adults, it led us to questioning. 

“Why is this happening to me? Why do I have to suffer? If there is a God why does She~He~It let me suffer like this? Can I bring the suffering to an end, once and for all? How?”

How we respond to these questions defines perhaps how we relate not only to pain but to life as such. It defines our path and how we walk it. The awakening path.

From pain to joy: the awakening journey as seen from above

I’m currently writing a book about this journey. Maybe it’s my way of responding to the questions above… Or a way to ask more questions. We will see!

Quite to my surprise, the book led me into what I now see as 8 stages of the human journey.

While most people are not aware of these stages, and some will call them other names and numbers, we move through these stages nevertheless. And not necessarily seamlessly.

I suspect that moving from one stage to the next is quite a challenge for most. Each time we move from one stage to the next…

It’s like moving through mysterious gates.

As we pass a gate, we find ourselves in unknown territory. In that new territory we cannot quite use the experience we gathered before we crossed the gate.

Also, there can be is a sense of loss, of going it alone.  We rarely cross a gate together. More often than not some of the people that were our companions on a previous stage of the journey don’t follow us to the next stage. 

What we can do though is find support from people that have traveled here before us and who can SEE a path through it.

This all does sound quite mysterious, doesn’t it. But perhaps if we take a look at each of these stages it becomes a bit more concrete. 

Forgive me for making it so brief. There will be so much more insight, nuances and inspiration in the book (with the working title “Awakening To Joyful Living”). For now, I hope the overview below will give you a sense of it.

Stage 1: Love, joy and oneness

As newborn babies we have a strong sense of our oneness, of our endlessly loving and joyful nature. But then, pretty quickly, life happens and we lose most of it. It feels like we get pushed (and sometimes kicked) out of paradise.

Stage 2: Into separation

It happens through wounds and traumas, it happens through upbringing and cultural influence, and it happens because it’s meant to happen.

It happens through energetical and emotional cuts. They separate us from our oneness, from our source, from ourselves and everyone else.

The gate of separation is deep, and it is painful.

Stage 3: Fighting the pain

Most of us don’t understand where that pain really comes from. We experience it each in our unique ways, we relate it to our personal stories and we give it all kinds of names, including loneliness, fear, depression, unworthiness and more.

What we have in common is that we try to fight the pain the best we can. We try to find relief. We search for solutions.

And solutions we find. But they’re never sufficient, or they’re sufficient but only for a limited time. They can only take us so far. And then we’re stuck. Stuck with pain.

Sometimes, it makes us want to give up living altogether.

But then something completely unexpected happens and we find ourselves moving through a very different gate.

Stage 4: Divine intervention

It’s a miracle . A glimpse of unbelievable grace. A divine intervention reminding us that life is bigger than our pain, and that we’re not alone.

An awakening begins to happen.

Yet for most of us it doesn’t last. It comes in glimpses and we never know if and when it will come back. 

But then again the very fact that we’ve seen the magic happen gives us a sense of possibility and a sense of direction. In fact, it leads us to the next gate.

Stage 5: Making peace with life

Having experienced that miracles exist, that God~Source~Spirit (or whatever other concept works for you) exists, and that life therefore must be what it is for a reason (even if we don’t necessarily understand what that reason is), we are now motivated to make peace with life as is. To love life even, more and more.

But we cannot stay there forever. At some point the time comes to encounter a very different gate…

Stage 6: Making peace with death

For many people, the journey through this and the remaining gates/stages happens very quickly – sometimes within minutes even.

For some of us, however, it takes many, many years.  

Frans of Assisi didn’t call it awakening. He said:

“It is in dying that we are born to eternal life”.

Sooner or later we have to make peace not only with life but also with death.

We make peace with death is to willingly surrender our ego~persona~human identity to The Bigger, to the Soul~God~Source~Universe~Spirit…

At some point of that process we cross yet another gate…

Stage 7: Reuniting with the One

Our awakening intensifies into a direct knowing ourselves as the One.  God~Soul~Source is no longer a concept. It’s more than a heart connection, and the feeling is different from devotion.

It can be experienced as a deep energy alignment, affecting all aspects of our existence, from the cells of our body to the way we feel, think, relate, work, and simply are. It’s powerfully liberating. 

During this stage the journey is all about an increasing unification with our Oneness while at the same time living a fairly normal human life.

In Meister Eckhart’s words:

“The eye through which I see God is the same eye through God sees me. My eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love”

And then, at some point, it’s time to cross the last gate of the human journey:

Stage 8: The End

This is the only stage that I haven’t entered yet (it would be impossible for me to write this if I had!…), but that’s the sense I get of the 8th stage: it is the Grand Finale. Although to be continued in another dimension.

None of us is there yet. Now, it is all about living and journeying. And for that:

Three important keys to the journey from pain to joy

Having painted a journey with the 8 gates and stages, there are 3 things that are super important to understand:

1.       Life is not a school. It is a journey that you are making for and with God~Oneness. Wherever you are on this journey, you are there because your Soul~Higher Self ~Source wants to experience that exact gate and stage of the journey, through you and at this exact time. Where you are right now is perfect! and one gate/stage is not better than the other, in any way.

2.      Each gate/stage has its own set of challenges and its own ways of meeting those challenges, its own set of tools so to speak. Most (but not all) of the tools and approaches that are helpful during one stage of the journey are not what is working best on another stage.

3.      You are not the journey. You are not any of the gates or stages. You are the traveler experiencing them, the dreamer dreaming them and gradually awakening from your dream while still dreaming it. You are the One. You are Love. You are Peace. You are Light. You are Joy.

Wherever you are there’s support for your journey

There is, always, support from your Soul~God. In this sense you never ever travel through life alone. And, there are also people out there to support you along the way, and tools and modalities that you can use to move forward.

One of the few tools that I found helpful throughout most stages of the journey is the SEE Approach. Learn about it here.

If you prefer to work with me individually, tell me why here.

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