Back when I was a teenager and living with my family, I was nothing like the rather peaceful, joyful Halina you see now. I was in a more or less constant state of frustration and conflict. All I wanted was to be alone, to be free and to do what I wanted. But I couldn’t.
I came to think of it as I was walking yesterday. Wondering how many people feel like this during the lock-down, having to spend more time together than they would want to, on less space than they need. Not being able to be yourself completely, not being able to work the way you want to or need to.
It’s a complex situation to be in, and it doesn’t make it any easier that you are a sensitive human being. You need peace and time and space do the work you’re here to do.
But how? We tend to believe that if only we understand the situation and the underlying patterns, if only we can find out what causes the frustration and the conflict, then we can fix it, and then there will be peace. So that’s what we try to do.
Surely, understanding and insights can bring you some peace of mind, for a while. But it doesn’t bring you peace of heart. Because your heart doesn’t seek understanding. Your heart seeks its nature. And the nature of your heart is love. Love and freedom.
But love doesn’t come from understanding. It comes as an inner connection. It comes as alignment and attunement and allowing. It comes as coming back to your heart’s innate peace and joy.
It sounds simple, but when your buttons are being triggered, when you are being met with the un-peacefulness within and outside, love is hard to find.
For the first 40 years of my life it has been as hard for me as for anyone else. Then, through a series of spontaneous awakenings I was shown a way to connect with love and peace even when I didn’t feel love and peace at all. A way so simple and so powerful that it blew my mind.
And my mind needed to blown! Because, as the good old songs goes, all we need is love. Love rather than understanding.
All we need is to SEE through the eyes of love.
This is one of the reason I call it the SEE Approach. It’s also an abbreviation of the 3 simple steps that make it work. More about SEEing here.
I’m having such an interesting experience these days, of certain things that are visible and are being shared publicly – such as the invitation to raise your vibration. And there are other things that are not share as openly – at least, where I am. And that is very understandable…
As you probably know, I am all about joy. I am all about supporting this community in opening to more joy, in awakening to joyful living, in becoming Joy Keepers. So, whenever I speak of that, I receive some beautiful experiences from people that resonate with that and feel the joy in themselves and in their lives and share that – and that is so wonderful. You are so needed and your ability to stay in joy is so important; now, more than ever! And then…
There are all those who do not comment and do not say anything. And some of them, I meet in a different way. Some of them are my coaching clients, for example. And when we talk, it’s in a more private space – and in that way, a space that feels more safe and so there they share the challenges they experience now. Fear being one of them and probably the most important of them, the biggest of them. And so, we work with that.
But what they also share with me is that they feel a relief because we can talk about it. The thing is that there is something going on, at least on the surface of the spiritual community, which is big, it’s millions of people, right? But let’s just call it a community. There’s something going on there that can give us a false perception perhaps. And what is going on is that, for the best of reasons, there is so much invitation to stay in the high vibration: “Don’t give in to fear”, “Don’t give in to suffering and such, but raise your vibration and connect with God” – and all those beautiful and true statements are there… However, this is not how life works!
So, many people experience right now – people in the spiritual community, people who are themselves coaches and practitioners and healers or speakers, teachers – they experience fear. You experience fear. And then, you have all these messages that you’re not supposed to be there, you’re supposed to be somewhere else. And perhaps, it speaks to part of your belief system even.
And so, you try to “raise your vibration” but you can’t. And then you feel really defeated, perhaps because your spiritual direction and journey tells you, “I should not be in fear. I should be able to raise vibration. I should be in joy. I should be centered. I should meditate”, etc, etc, etc. And at the same time, perhaps you feel that you can’t.
Perhaps you experience that your life is falling apart. Perhaps you experience that people that you care deeply about, your loved ones are sick or maybe you hear of people that pass away and it feels like it’s too early – and in any case, it hurts. And you see everything that’s going on in the world and you wonder about what’s going on? What’s going to happen with your financial situations? How are you going to cope?
All this is going on and it puts you under great, great stress and there’s more and more fear. And at the same time, there’s this idea – in the community that should be your support – there’s this idea, not from all, I’m sure, but from certain special leaders saying that you shouldn’t be going there.
So, I’m here to say that yes, you should, and you can, and it doesn’t mean that you will stay there forever. There’s nothing wrong with your life. There’s nothing wrong with moving through fear, moving through despair, moving through doubts, moving through darkness – there’s nothing wrong with that, at all.
On the contrary, we move through suffering as a way of exploring it; of a way of getting to know certain areas of our lives. What happens right now with this whole corona crisis is a global transformation. More and more people see it and it’s also a personal transformation.
Well, transformations don’t happen by trying to get away from what is calling for a transformation. They don’t happen by us running away from what is calling for our attention. When there is fear, when there is lack, when there is a loss – this is all something that was there already. And then, life happens and triggers it, but it has lived within us already. So basically, we are being invited to look at it and move through it. And if needed, get some help so that you can move through it.
But it is not about jumping into high vibration. It is about meeting it. And there is nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with you for a certain period of time, suddenly not being able to do your spiritual practices because you are overwhelmed. You have a good reason not to, there’s too much going on, you’re under stress – that’s one reason.
The other reason, as I see it, is that it actually helps you really dive into it. If you take all your light with you and look at darkness, there is no darkness there. So, you cannot really explore it if you’re fully connected. You actually need to disconnect in order to see that part of you. Does that make sense? I hope it does, because this is how it works.
There are periods of our lives where we are being disconnected from our source to certain degree so that we can experience the pain that has lived in that pocket and that has been seeking our attention. And now it has found our attention. And now, it’s time to to deal with it, to work with it and there are different ways of working with it. You’re not going to stay there. And as you move through it – and there different ways you can move through it – then you can slowly but surely – through patience, through work, through honesty with yourself – you can raise your vibration which is your true nature, but not as an escape from what is there, on the country.
So, I really want to be this voice for you – for those of you who don’t say anything in comments because perhaps you feel that this is embarrassing or you should be more enlightened or you should be more together or you shouldn’t be afraid or you shouldn’t be desperate or shouldn’t be confused. Everything you are is fine.
This is the experience right now. This is the experience right now and it will not last, it will not last. But it is to be experienced and there’s nothing wrong with it and it doesn’t make you any little bit less spiritual than you are because, of course, you are.
And you will be moving through it and I hope you will reach out for help. If I can be of help – and I can, many times – reach out, we’ll find a way to make it happen. And if others can be of help, reach out to them. Get all the help that you need.
Move through it with patience, with dedication, with surrender towards it and you will be okay. You will come out at the other side as we all will, as humanity, as this one percent culture that it experiencing great challenges all of a sudden. And as a world, we will come on the other side of it.
We will learn and we will return on a higher level but not by suppressing anything and not by hiding anything. So, know that: that there is nothing wrong with you. You are on your way. And however the landscape looks right now, this is how it looks and you’re moving through it and you are not alone. Okay? I love you and I look forward to keep connecting with you.
Is it possible to speak of and feel abundance in times of corona, with all the financial pressures and signs of disaster above us? Yes it is! But first, let me ask you….
How are you?
I really mean the question… How are you?
Here we are on this beautiful morning here in Denmark. The sun is shining brightly and it’s peaceful and all is good… Until I open any app, any social media page, anything… and of course it’s all about the corona virus. Which is completely understandable as corona it is defining our world right now – or so it looks, so it seems.
In strange ways, it is actually not affecting my life, at all. I feel very blessed – or maybe ‘spared’ would be the word? I’m grateful to have the life I have – it’s peace in every way. And I also know it may be very, very different for you.
And so I’m simply curious, human to human curious:
How is your life right now?
How does it look?
How does it feel?
How do you experience it?
I would love you to share in a comment and let me know so that I know how your world is. (If you’re not comfortable sharing in a comment how your life is for you right now, send me a message perhaps? )
What is good in your world?
What is difficult in your world?
How has life changed?
For most people, it has changed into something more limited. And so…
Abundance is not on the agenda right now – but it could be
There’s a lot of uncertainty, in so many ways. And in my own simple life and in my certainty, I am definitely seeing that other part too. I’m seeing the world changing rapidly, everything changing… and I’m reminded of a quote that says, ‘In this world, nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes”. Wow…
It’s kind of true, right? And the feeling behind that is that most people don’t want to have anything to do with either!
We don’t want death, we don’t want taxes, we don’t want life to end, ever, we want to have money flowing, we don’t want taxes…
It’s really all about fear and about our sense of uncertainty and not having safety.
And this is a very old quote as you know, I’m sure. But our present experience… For many, many people the present experience is that it’s really being like these certain things: death and taxes, death and financial fear are being brought in massively – and we don’t want that.
So, we do everything we can to prevent death from happening – as if we could. And we do everything we can to prevent financial changes or fears. And we can, but maybe not in the ways we think we can. Here’s a way to experience abundance in corona times too.
What is missing in this picture?
It’s filling the horizon. Yet, when I paint this picture for you and for myself right now, there’s something missing there, right? There’s something missing…
What is missing is the world within, the undying world within and the abundant world within.
The challenge right now is to continue stepping into that world, continue going back into that world, and finding our direction and our certainty and our safety and our life and our abundance in that inner world.
And then, from there, only from there, meet the world out there, however it unfolds. That is the invitation, right?
There are so many things going on right now, also in positive sense. There are so many meditations and sermons and webinars and positive quotes and everything else going on that even that can become overwhelming. It has been for me actually. And yet, here I come with another video myself 😉 – because some things need to be said again.
So, there’s just a lot of everything. And still, within you, within me, there is this inner place of peace, this inner place of joy, this inner place where we can find our sense of direction in the middle of all the confusion.
There’s the inner abundance that we can feel and say and sense in the midst of all the convincing statements of limitation, this inner life in the midst of all that talk of death – which by the way, is tiny compared to what is going on in the world otherwise, I am noticing that too. As always, what happens in our own backyard is so much more important than what happens in the big world – it’s very understandable.
How to keep the connection with abundance, joy and peace
I wish all of us this remembering that we can always step into the unshakable place within that is at peace.
There are many ways to step into it, I’m sure you have your own. And one of the things that it requires is a certain meditative practice perhaps, or just an inner practice, but it also requires grounding and joy – and that, you can also gain these days from dancing!
Like for example, dancing joy with the group of us that Caroline Hoek has taken an initiative to create. We dance regularly, meeting online and seeing each other, and it’s wonderful, it’s absolutely wonderful.
That too brings you back to yourself, brings you back to your body, brings you back to your aliveness, brings you back to your joy. So, come join us! I hope to see you there.
And I hope to see you in the comments – I would love to know how you’re doing!
Let’s continue living and celebrating this life. We are not defined by our circumstances!
There are more and more people these days seeing the corona crisis as healing. It’s about healing hands not just washing hands. Here are my perspectives and stories from this particular journey…
How are you?
In these corona times this is a question with an extra significance somehow. There is pressure around it and it is what we all talk about. And my inclination actually this morning was not talk about it because everyone else is talking about it. …
There is a need for our healing hands
But then I’m not going to talk about it. It’s not about it, it’s about us, it’s about you and me. It’s about how we react during these times too. How we prevail. How we bring in our love, our light, our joy, our healing hands into it all.
And it all looks different for each and everyone of us. It really strikes me how different the world is being experienced. It’s like there is a wave moving through the world and each of us reacts in a different way, depending on our circumstances for sure, but also depending on our inner circumstances. And maybe also just depending on where life takes us these days.
I have such strong and powerful experience that this is so not random, that we are really being invited to bring something into this situation and it may be different for each and everyone of us what it is.
Different challenges – different opportunities to heal
Some will and do experience great pressure, perhaps in terms of health, perhaps in terms of experiencing death in families. For most that’s actually not the case but for some it is. For most there is pressure created in life as we know it. There is more financial pressure perhaps, or pressure in relationships. Some people are forced to be with other people all the time in their homes and apartments. Other people experience loneliness. So it’s very different for each of us.
In any case we are invited to heal ourselves, to discover our self healing hands so to speak. My dear speaking mentor, teaching mentor and colleague Steinar Ditlefsen expressed it with such clarity, just in 5 minutes, how it is all about healing ourselves first, and becoming first what needs to become during this time.
Because as we heal the world heals. That’s how it works. This is a mirror. Whatever we see out there is a mirror for us.
It is a friendly mirror. Sometimes it looks scary but it’s actually a friendly mirror inviting us to heal from within what we see outside. So this is the first thing to do for all of us.
We are more than this
The other thing to do is to remember that we are more than that. We are more than the pressure, we are more than the trouble, we are more than the limitation, we are more than the challenges.
We are infinitely more. We are infinite beings showing up as these human beings, moving through a great challenges. And the great challenge is actually what happens on Earth, it is the climate, the environment and not the corona crisis itself.
It’s not about corona
I talked with a friend yesterday and she said that within the last week or so she’s been talking with some 200 people, and except of one, just one, all the others had the realization that this whole thing with the corona virus is created for us to wake up to our responsibility. And to wake up to our abilities as people who can connect with who we really are, and connect with each other, and work together and collaborate. Because this is really what is being called for.
And they all said to her, “You know once this thing is over… And maybe even before it… I’m going to engage much more around climate and environment. ” They really see how it is important.
We do experience during these times how the pressure that we create in the world as humans how it lessens actually, because we stay at home. You can almost here the sigh of relief in nature.
Can you feel that? I feel it almost literally whenever I go for a walk. Like there’s something opening up. And yes, it’s Spring and the birds are singing but it feels like more than ever before. I’ve heard of others having this experience.
So there is a bigger context for us people, as humanity, as individuals, and also as souls. It is very much about bringing that bigger perspective in, it is very much about surrendering to what life gives us and healing what needs to be healed. Finding our healing hands, literally and figuratively speaking.
Joy and Playfulness in corona times
It is also about bringing even more of our love in, bringing even more of our joy in, bringing even more of our playfulness in. Playfulness as in playing fully.
And how do you play fully when you are under limited circumstances? The reminder is that while some circumstances appear limiting – and I don’t’ want to underestimate those – but our ability to be in joy, our ability to play, our ability to shine is not dependent on our circumstances. It never has been.
No matter how serious things look it doesn’t mean that you should turn that ability down, on the contrary. You can! And I’m here to help you with that, so if you have any questions, if you don’t know how, let me know.
I’m reminded all of a sudden… 25+ years ago my dear dear brother passed away very suddenly, leaving behind his 6 children. I went to Israel where the funeral was to be within very short time, because that’s how they do it. And so I spent time with his family that was in such deep grief, such deep loss…
And the children.. The youngest was just 1 year old, the oldest was a teenager I think. What I really noticed was how they moved through waves… There were times where they were grieving and crying and missing their Dad and also just reacting to the grieving adults around them… But in between that they were playing, they were joyful, they were alive!
This is our natural way of being. And, we live in a culture that may be judging that, that may be saying oh you shouldn’t… But we know we should! And we see it. I’m sure you’ve seen videos from Italy where people are singing and laughing, and there are so many beautiful things going on right now, it makes my heart sing!
Our challenges and our gifts
In meeting a challenge we are really bringing gifts in, we are really bringing our joy, we are really bringing up what we are, which is more than the circumstances, and more than the challenges. It’s so wonderful to see that.
So let’s keep doing it, let’s keep shining. This is our role. I’ve seen that some of us had this very strange experience: As soon as this thing began to accelerate there was a great peace, great love, great joy flowing into us and through us. And it is there for a reason. It is there because this is the role we are here to play.
We are here to be that peace, to be that joy. So if that happens for you wonderful, be grateful, and share it. Let’s shine! This is what we’re here for.
If you don’t experience the shining that’s totally fine. Then you’re here to heal it right now. And the shining will come. Because the only thing between the shining and the not shining is what needs to be addressed at this time. We experience it for a reason.
This is the time to be a Joy Keeper in whatever way you are that. And Love Keeper and Light Keeper and Hope Keeper. Be the healing hands of the world.
I think this is very important actually. I’ve heard a lady who for the best of reasons and with the best intentions said ”This is the worst crisis in the history of humanity” and she said it with such gravity. And I don’t want to underestimate what is going on, especially because I cannot see into the future. But I do know and I do see and I am being told and others are too, that this is a wave that is going pass and it is not the worst crisis in the history of human.
It is a serious crisis yet in the big scheme of things it is actually minor. And I am not underestimating it, please don’t take me wrong. I’m not underestimating the pain, or the suffering, or the trouble. Still, this is not the end of the world, this is a passing wave.
The invitation as always is to do what we need to do, to heal ourselves first and then we heal the world. To shine within and then to shine outside. To find the joy and the playfulness in whatever way we can right now and then to bring it out. And the world moves and life moves on.
Thank you! Thank you so much. Be Joy because you are. Be Love because you are.
And you will find it, even if you cannot come in touch with it right now, which may be true for some of you, you will find it and we are here to help each other with that. We are waking up to this together.
There is support around you for sure. And I’m here for you as well so just let me know.
Thank you for listening, thank you for being here.
Have you ever come back from an event, a course, a seminar with so many ideas, so much inspiration and motivation… And then you encounter overwhelm?… Then watch this:
Watched the video? Great. Then let’s make this more specific:
Here are the three things for you to do when you encounter that post-event overwhelm:
1. Start with taking care of the one who experiences overwhelm
Before you begin even looking at the notes, the plans, the goals take care of the instrument of the work first. That’s you! Give yourself whatever you may need to find back to your balance (or find your new balance, as the case may be).
This is the time for good old self-care, self-love, grounding and joy. Re-commit to the practices that you possibly weren’t able to practice during the event. Take time to come back home to yourself. It may take hours, or even multiple days. Do whatever you need to do for yourself.
2. Move through your notes and plans as the captain of the ship that you are
When you’re back to balance and just before you begin actually working on all those notes and ideas and plans center yourself, tune in to your soul, your wholeness, yourSelf. Become very present. Then, from this space of peaceful inner leadership, start sorting your notes and ideas into the categories that make sense for you and incorporate them in your usual working/business plan.
3. Keep reconnecting to avoid overwhelm in your daily life
Bring this approach into your daily work. Honor your spiritual practices. Cultivate your connection with your true Self, love and joy. And work practically from that space.
So again, while our immediate impulse is often to just go and address all these notes and get a lot of done, the art of it is to do it in the energy that is the very foundation of who we are and what our work is.
Think of yourself as an ocean and the work as your waves. Overwhelm happens when you do it the other way round.
Is it better to choose love rather than fear, joy rather than sadness, light rather than dark? The answer seems obvious. Yet there comes a time when we are called to move beyond these choices….
Our joy and freedom is in our wholeness. Love and joy don’t choose. Are we willing to learn to embrace rather than evade?
I will be sharing more specific resources to support this journey. Stay in touch through the Awakening To Joy newsletter at HalinaGold.com/welcome (you will get it as well as the “Finding Joy Every Day” ebook).
Or, if you feel you’re ready to move to that next level of freedom and joy, I’m ready to support you here.
Many of us are in transition – something is ending, something new is coming but is only at its very beginning or perhaps not even that. And there is a theme there, about fulfillment of needs – not having our needs fulfilled. Behind the theme there is a much bigger calling to have our needs fulfilled in ways we didn’t even know where possible. The invitation is to take the next step, whatever that is for you.
Below are a few key points from the video. Watch the video to get the benefit of the energy, the deeper insights and real life examples. Also, please note that what is shared here is not about perfection, or what’s right or wrong, it’s about exploring what is going on in our lives at this time (wherever we are on our awakening journey) and what the real potential is there.
The fulfillment of our needs is absolutely necessary. But how? The paradigm of our current culture is that needs (for love, for money, or anything else) have to be fulfilled by someone or something external.
Living with and believing that paradigm makes us completely dependent on the limited resources of other people, work, nature etc. It makes us feel limited and unfulfilled, more or less.
Through a great deal of our life that’s just how it is and we have no other choice than to seek fulfillment through other people, external work etc.
But at some point we realize that behind the pain, the frustrations or just dissatisfaction due to unfulfilled needs there is a bigger calling and a bigger potential: To experience an actual fulfillment through our wholeness.
It doesn’t mean that we stop relating to other people, or stop work or stop receiving resources from nature. But it does mean that all our relationships with everyone and everything outside ourselves can begin to change.
We discover that there is necessity for knowing our wholeness and oneness and meeting the world from there.
Instead of seeking love from a space of lack we can share our presence and experience more love together. Instead of seeking money from a space of lack we can serve from our abundance and experience more abundance together. Instead of seeking natural resources from a space of lack we can experience a rich and lasting relationship with the Earth.
Our orientation towards the world can change from getting our needs fulfilled to following the flow of life, being more present and then sharing from a place of more wholeness and less lack.
Again, we are all in a process, we’re learning. Sometimes we have no choice but seeking fulfillment of needs outside and that is fine. But sometimes we do have a choice and are reminded of the potential of seeking within first. And when we do we get a chance to find the joy, beauty, the love, the expansion, the abundance in ways that we didn’t even imagine where possible.
And then, whatever we find outside is on top of the inner fulfillment and it’s just so sweet and beautiful. But we’re not longer dependent and that means that we can now see and enJOY so many more dimensions in ourselves and in others.
There are many ways of finding joy in life. Strangely, the most powerful ones are actually those we tend to avoid. And there is a reason for that…
Finding joy in life requires that the inner energy of joy flows higher and richer. But that is only possible if we create more space for it to flow! Here are 2 fundamental ways to make it create that space:
Create more time for joy in your daily rhythm
Create more space for joy in your energy flow
Why finding joy in life can be hard
Creating more space for the joy energy to flow means addressing whatever takes that space now but is not flowing. It takes resolving energy blocks in other ways.
More often than not these energy blocks, or joy blocks, relate to our core wounds, our issues, our themes.
The challenge – which I have seen in my work with clients and also in my own life – is that we are reluctant to go there!
Many if not most of you reading this have already spent quite some time and energy addressing these issues. If you’re like most people, you prefer to believe that you have done the work already and there’s no need to go back there. Who wants to experience that pain again… But here’s the inconvenient truth:
When we refuse to go deeper we prevent ourselves from reaching higher levels of joy, in all areas of life
The thing is that there is always a deeper level of understanding and a deeper level of healing. Not going that next step deeper will simply prevent you from freeing the energy, the potential, the free space for your joy to flow. And that again will prevent you from experiencing that next level of freedom, of love, of joy, of creativity, of true fulfillment.
Every time you dare to dive deeper, you open up to more gifts, including powerful and wonderful gifts you didn’t even know were waiting for you!
Ready to dive deeper and find your next level of joy? Consider this:
As life always happens for you, it provides you with two ways to go deeper
You experience a reflection in the world that shows where you may be stuck or judging yourself. You can choose to work with that in conscious and freeing ways that most people aren’t aware of, actually.
Don’t let the immediate comfort of not addressing those issues stop you from experiencing the far more fulfilling joy, love and freedom that is your birthright!
Is it possible to meet an unpleasant experience of “weirdness” and even turn criticism to freedom and joy?
When we open to an aspect of ourselves that we have been out of touch with for many years it can be experienced as very uncomfortable. It may take some work before we can SEE the gift in the experience.
We have so many ideas about what is the truth about us or not, and especially when it comes to what we experience as discomfort and even more so criticism, our natural reaction is to defend ourselves.
It doesn’t help us much though, not in the long run. Defensiveness constricts our heart and our energy, and with that prevents us from SEEing what is there to see, and uncovering the hidden potential and joy that is there too.
Whereas saying yes to criticism, as challenging and even counter-intuitive as it may seem, and doing it in an open sort of way yet without self-judgement does the opposite: It expands our energy, enables flow, and opens for a deeper experience of the beauty of our wholeness!
Turn criticism to freedom – an invitation to a bold practice
When meeting criticism, try to say yes to whatever is being said about you as a part of you, an aspect of you. An aspect that you are willing to SEE and explore, a part of your wholeness, and from there a part of our Oneness. There you have the potential to go from criticism to freedom and joy. And…