Do those “best ways to live” bring you joy?

It strikes me how we tend to speak of “best ways to live”, rules, habits, rituals, tools, approaches etc as something absolute.

It’s not. To use an example, a beginning musician, an intermediate student, an advanced student of music (or mathematics, or cooking), don’t practice in the same ways.

Byron Katie says it this way: “The reason why I love rules and plans and religions is that people feel safe in them for a while. And, personally, I don’t have any rules. I don’t need them.”

Some people meditate 5 hours every day, always at the same time. Some people live moment to moment and they live in the most awakened of ways. Most of us live somewhere in between.

So the art of it is to create habits or use tools in a conscious sort of way.

When you learn about a new habit, or a new tool or approach ask yourself this question:

“Am I drawn to this approach at all? Does it resonate within me?”

If you are, then the next question could be:

“Is it because it truly supports me in my particular life, on my particular path, at this particular stage of my journey? Or is it  just because it helps me cope with my fear of having a bad day and my fear of having a bad life?” 

I see tremendously succesful people share and sell the ways they live, the habits and rituals that work for them. And it seems like the right thing. I see how full of energy and fire they are, and how efficiently they live.

But then, with some of them, even some of the most world famous ones, they don’t appear very happy, or very awake (in a deeper sense of the word) for that matter. How come?

What’s right for them is not necessarily right for me, or for you. It depends.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I have some habits and rituals too.  But I don’t do them to prevent a bad day from happening.

Even if I, like everyone else, don’t quite enjoy those less than great days, I know from experience that these days always have a gift for me, a gift of transformation, release, growth. There is absolutely no reason to avoid them.

The habits I do have is because  they feel like the most fulfilling, present way of living at this particular moment in time. I love doing them, I enjoy having these spaces in my day. I don’t want to miss them.

I’m not married to my habits. I’m married to my soul.

Just to give you a more specific example:

Those masters of efficiency say that you should study and learn something new at least 1 hour every day. Science confirms it. It’s the right thing to do, they say. But is it true for you? And if so, how is it true?

Let me share with you how my studying habits have been changing throughout my life.

When I was young, I studied all the time. I read a lot of personal growth books, spiritual books. I was fascinated by it. It was all new to me. I wanted to learn.

And then the day came when it was time to throw it all away and find my own truth and my own learning.

Nowadays, I may still check out a book of that type from time to time, but, with a few significant exceptions, I almost always end up just skimming it.

Right now, there are 2 books that I read almost every day. Just a page or two from each of them. One is the book I mentioned before, A Thousand Names For Joy.

The other is a book that isn’t published yet as such, but is available as a study group, namely The Lightworker Manual.

I’ve read these two (very different) works maybe 4,5,6 times before. I don’t remember anymore, and it doesn’t matter. What matters is that I study in a very different way now. And the transformations that happen are deeper.

It is not an intellectual learning. It is not an emotional learning. It is not a learning at all. It is an exploration. It is using a book or a text as a way to explore the depth of my being and to grow and expand from there.

That said, what I do may or may not be what you need. What I’m trying to say is that it is all very relative. It all depends on who you are and where you and what your life is all about.

Don’t let any authority, myself included 😉 , tell you how to live your life.

See what resonates with you. See what’s possible for you. And remember that no matter how it may look on the surface of it, your life is governed by a greater wisdom than we, as humans, can ever know.

From that higher perspective there is no such thing as a wasted day, and there is no such thing as a wasted life. Those who speak of waste this way speak from fear, or from with the illusion, the matrix, the human game if you will.

On the other hand, joy, my friend, true joy is real. It is the reality of who you truly are. It flows from the very source of your being. So if you need a way to find out whether a habit, a ritual, a tool serves you ask this question as well:

Does it make you more joyful?

If you feel confused and want to spend an hour with me exploring what steps might be right for you on your way to Joy and fulfillment, reach out to me here.

Enlightenment: Is it for everyone? Or just for the few chosen ones?

Enlightenment for everyone?! How provoking that sounds…


Get all the details of this new enlightenment journey here

Throughout most of my spiritual journey to me enlightenment meant: The complete, full, conscious embodiment of soul / spirit / higher consciousness.

Believing that, I had a rather specific picture of how that would look like. I would imagine someone  standing or moving in a most graceful sort of way, with an eternal smile on their lips, always saying and doing the right thing, endlessly loving, immersed in stillness even as they were speaking, emanating peace and joy and light…  It was the most desirable and most unattainable state I could think of.

So you can imagine how dangerous it felt when the word “enlightenment” became to show half way into the Lightworker Manual.

Even if the word was qualified as in  “we are providing ways to enter into a more enlightened or light-filled experience than ever before, for many more than ever before. It’s not because enlightenment is better or more perfect, it has nothing to do with such judgments. It’s because this is the course of the human evolution and it is a necessary development.”

Even knowing that, it still felt intimidating somehow. I felt like a fraud. Who were I to teach enlightenment? I would never ever call my very human self an enlightened being. I know myself too well for that. I know my imperfections. I am as human as anyone.

But then something started to happen. Such as the experience of sharing an energy that I didn’t know I was sharing.  And that wasn’t an isolated experience. More and more people are telling me that there is this light with me,  even when I’m unaware of it, even when I don’t try to open to it.

So I’m finally beginning to accept that it’s time we for us to redefine the word “enlightenment” rather than getting stuck in those old ideals, these perfect pictures that just keep us away from our actual possibilities.

Enlightenment is not a state, it is a process.

Enlightenment, as I choose to understand it now, is a process of opening to light more than ever before, an individual process and also a collective process for humanity as such. 

An enlightenment process rarely results in the full embodiment of light. It is not the full transformation, and it is not meant to be it either. What our times call for is a general expansion, enlightening more of our individual humanity, and enlightening the humanity as such.

How the enlightenment process feels

It does not feel like enlightenment, not to me. It feels like being  more at peace with life and people, having less reactions to whatever used to trigger me, having more access to joy, experiencing more harmony, more gratitude, more presence.

It’s not perfect, and I don’t expect it to ever become perfect. It’s just lighter and lighter and lighter, in every way.

What it takes for enlightenment to happen

The enlightenment process does require a certain level of energetical freedom so that the light can flow and glow.

It does require a certain alignment with one’s soul, for the same reason.

But it does not require that we become a living Buddha per se. Perhaps because we already are Buddha, even if we’re more or less oblivious to the fact. Buddhas in disguise. Souls pretending they are something else.

Enlightenment then means coming out of the hiding, bit by bit, and allowing that inherent Buddha nature of ours to shine, more and more, knowingly and unknowingly.

And, for that nature of us to show itself, we need to be open. Open to everything in us and everything outside of us. The more we can allow the light of consciousness to embrace any part of us, the more free that light can shine for others as well – even if we’re far from “fully enlightened”.

Can you travel the enlightenment road on your own?

Simple as it may sound, it really isn’t. We are complex beings and the journey can be challenging. It does take time and considerable commitment. And, it takes guidance from someone or something that is at least some steps ahead of where you are.

If you have all the guidance you need already and things are evolving just like you wanted them too, wonderful! But if not…

Enlightenment coaching

Spiritual surrender and the Lightworker journey

What is the meaning of spiritual surrender? That’s what this final chapter of the Lightworker Manual addresses – but then again, it doesn’t! The chapter itself is a process of surrender, and the concept of surrender can be easily misunderstood…. Listen in!

On a very general note, there are (at least) 3 ways to experience spiritual surrender:

  • As a once and for all radical decision, similar to Michael Singer’s journey as described in The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life’s Perfection
  • As ad hoc, case by case choices that we make in any specific situation
  • As a natural unfoldment of consciousness (like the different presence experiences I’m sharing in the video above).

Are you ready to embark on your own journey through the Lightworker Manual and become  the joyful and impactful Lightworker that you were meant to be? You can now pre-register for the upcoming Lightworker Group Coaching program here.

Shine your Light.
Amplify your impact.
Joyfully and effortlessly,
Change the world.

What stands in the way of love? (19)

We are born as an expression of pure Love. It’s very simple. But then we develop this very complicated relationship with love…

Just to give you an impression, below are some of the states/experiences that come in the way of our love.  I get much more personal and there’s more to learn as well in the video though. So don’t  settle for the few words below. 😉


Shame makes us distance ourselves from our love and our heart. Guilt and shame can be of things we have experienced or done and judge. And, shame can leads us back to our naked, innocent heart:


Makes us push against and reject – it’s a very different energy than love’s natural receptivity. It’s a natural reaction to the ways we have been held back. And, anger can become love’s ally and the power that enables that naked heart to express itself in the world fearlessly. But first we have to deal with…


Fear has so many faces, expressions and reasons… fear of losing control, fear of having no boundaries, fear of being judged for loving the wrong people (including the very wrong people indeed). And, if you go deep enough into the energy of fear, it will take you directly to joy and love.

But how do we remove those blocks?

There are many ways, and the one that has worked best for me is the SEE Approach. I share the basics of it in the video, and we go deeper with it when we work individually or in groups. To explore current options for you to open more to the love that you are, explore Lightworker offers here

JOYful living in challenging times (18)

What is Joy?

We use the word in many different ways. Here, in the Lightworker Manual it refers to the essential feeling of who we are. In other words, joy is the most natural feeling in the world.

And yet, natural it may be,  we spend much of our time not feeling it, and when we feel it, we don’t feel it fully. How come?

This (18th) presentation of the Lightworker Manual sheds some some light on that, and also proposes ways to bring more Joy into our lives. Listen in!

5 ways to bring more Joy into our lives

I explain more about each of the approaches & projects in the video, but wanted to share an overview with you here as well:

1. Shift your focus from problems to joy

We are problem-solution oriented or even fixated. In doing so, we not only limit our ability to resolve them, but also the Joy that is our birthright

2. Add Joy everywhere

Whatever you do – and even when you don’t do anything – add Joy to the experience. Open to the Joy that is within you already. And, allow yourself to be playful too!

3. Become a Joy Ambassador

Even if we all live in the land of heaviness aka the challenging human experience, we’re more than that. We all come from the same source as our Joy. Practice living as an ambassador of  Joy – connecting and engaging in life and also representing and with that reminding others of Joy as our home

4. Join the Lightworker Group Program

This is the program that will take you beyond the inspirations found in the Lightworker Manual and into a transformational group process where we support each other in embodying Joy (and much more).

5. Join the Joy Keepers Networks

If you’re a spiritual leader, coach, teacher or healer this network is for you!
It will help you bring and maintain more Joy into your own life as well as the life of others – potentially even humanity as a whole.

Share your experiences, insights and questions about Joy below!

Lightworkers Group Coaching Program

For a long time now I’ve had 2 lives, kind of. One life was all about providing spiritual inspiration and support (like in this blog).  In the other I supported and helped resolve issues not related to my spiritual work at all. It was an interesting journey which I appreciate, I learned a lot and met some exceptional people there.

Last week that journey finally came to its end, and after taking one beautiful day off for the transition I’ve been thrilled to be able to focus on my soul’s calling entirely since. And not just thrilled but on fire!

There’s so much I want to do and the time has come for it to be created and shared, with you and with the world. I will of course be sharing more along the way, but here’s the first of these upcoming creations:

The Lightworker Group Program

Shine your Light.
Amplify your impact.
Joyfully and effortlessly,
Change the world.

This program is the first program where you actually get to work with the Lightworker Manual.  It’s designed as a journey where you and a small group of people will work with the manual daily, turn it into practice and receive transformational coaching and practices along the way.


Shining light on the patterns that have been restraining us (17)

Have you noticed how a period of expansion is often followed by restriction?
It’s not because you’re going backwards – it’s because as more light shines through, the patterns that were hidden in the dark become visible. And, having experienced the expansion our gut reaction is often to just get rid of those (unnecessary, so it seems) restrictions. That’s what this chapter of the Lightworkers Manual is all about.


It takes a constant Light and openness to see those patterns, to understand them and to support a peaceful transformation. Ultimately that’s our job as Lightworkers in the world as well, to keep shining no matter what seems to happen in us, around us or out there. The mentorship process that is created around the Lightworker Manual will help those who are interested in growing that ability.

Another supportive resource that I just opened the door to is the Joy Keepers Network, a forum for spiritual leaders, coaches, teachers and healers where we can create ways to bring more Light and Joy together, and also inspire and support each other along the way.

Shine on! 🙂

Flow: Why Lightworkers need to open more to it (money flow too) (16)

Opening to flow is what being Lightworker is all about!

Our “work” (the work which is not work) is to open to the flow of Light (as much as we can) and then to share it and in this way expand its presence or the awareness of it in our world.

And, our ability to open to Light expands (or contracts) depending on our ability to open to any aspect of flow, including money flow.

That’s what this next chapter of the Lightworker Manual (chapter 16) is about:

Remember, we don’t have to create flow. It’s overflowing already! We just have to open to it and not stand in its way

How to do it is individual, and a way to explore your way is by observing how you are preventing flow in any area of life. Money is always a great place to start these observations.

When you know how you prevent it you will also know how to allow it. And, the video above provides some simple ways to do it.

Whichever way you choose, remember, flow is unconditional, by design (conditions stand in the way of flow!). That’s how we need to open to it and share it as well: freely and unconditionally.

 Where in your life do you experience most and least flow?

What helps you open to more flow? Share your experiences below!

Thank you! <3

The truth that transcends death (15)

We cannot be Lightworkers and Joy Keepers without being Truth Keepers as well.

I don’t mean any of the many truths that we may hold, believe or know, but rather the greater truth that we can sometimes experience and that transcends it all – death and loss too.

Below is a presentation of the Lightworker Manual chapter 15:

We cannot have an open and trusting relationship with Life and Light without having an equally open and trusting relationship with Death and Transformation.

How will you grow a positive relationship with death?


From longing for Light to becoming a Light Antenna (14)

Have you ever felt that deep longing for Light, for feeling and being what you knew was your greater reality? And isn’t it the longing that took you here, to a place where you can become a Light antenna yourself?

But what is a Light antenna?

This isn’t a path for everyone, but if you have felt that deep longing at some point in your life and have followed it,  your next longing is or will be: to be of service.

Just like it was my path to journey towards Light all my adult life, and eventually to create the path and the Lightworker Manual, as well as the Joy Keepers Network. More to come soon!