Frustration and conflict – what we need to SEE

frustration and conflictBack when I was a teenager and living with my family, I was nothing like the rather peaceful, joyful Halina you see now. I was in a more or less constant state of frustration and conflict. All I wanted was to be alone, to be free and to do what I wanted. But I couldn’t.

I came to think of it as I was walking yesterday. Wondering how many people feel like this during the lock-down, having to spend more time together than they would want to, on less space than they need. Not being able to be yourself completely, not being able to work the way you want to or need to.

It’s a complex situation to be in, and it doesn’t make it any easier that you are a sensitive human being. You need peace and time and space do the work you’re here to do.

But how? We tend to believe that if only we understand the situation and the underlying patterns, if only we can find out what causes the frustration and the conflict, then we can fix it, and then there will be peace. So that’s what we try to do.

Surely, understanding and insights can bring you some peace of mind, for a while. But it doesn’t bring you peace of heart. Because your heart doesn’t seek understanding. Your heart seeks its nature. And the nature of your heart is love. Love and  freedom.

But love doesn’t come from understanding. It comes as an inner connection. It comes as alignment and attunement and allowing. It comes as coming back to your heart’s innate peace and joy.

It sounds simple, but when your buttons are being triggered, when you are being met with the un-peacefulness within and outside, love is hard to find.

For the first 40 years of my life it has been as hard for me as for anyone else. Then, through a series of spontaneous awakenings I was shown a way to connect with love and peace even when I didn’t feel love and peace at all. A way so simple and so powerful that it blew my mind.

And my mind needed to blown! Because, as the good old songs goes, all we need is love. Love rather than understanding.

All we need is to SEE through the eyes of love.

This is one of the reason I call it the SEE Approach. It’s also an abbreviation of the 3 simple steps that make it work. More about SEEing here.

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