A few days ago a colleague/friend and I talked about the journey into unconditional love and how opening to the source of love within transformed and keeps transforming our relationships with ourselves and with others.
From there somehow the conversation took us into the topic of unconditional abundance, and us having a sense that opening to the source of abundance can and will transform our relationships – with ourselves and others – in similar liberating ways.
It started with loneliness
There was a time when I believed and experienced that I had very limited access to love. Like so many others I was convinced that the only way love could come to me was from and through other people. And, at the time, there wasn’t much of anything coming to me.
I felt very lonely back then. I missed feeling loved. I missed smiles, hugs, and the sense of being cared about and supported.
It was the pain of loneliness, and the way it could not be fixed by someone else, that eventually forced me to go deep and reconnect with the source of love within. As I did, my life changed completely, as did my relationships with other people.
What I discovered is that love must come from within, first and foremost, and that I am not in any way dependent on others for love.
At the same time, and that is the miraculous beauty of it, as I opened to the love within, and to loving myself, I immediately started attracting love, affection and support from others, in ways I have never experienced before.
So the journey was from yearning for smiles, hugs, intimacy and support to feeling happy and fulfilled by the sheer love flowing from within. But then also experiencing that love, smiles, hugs, intimacy and support come my way naturally as needed and as a reflection and an expression of the love within.
There is no doubt that opening to the inner source of unconditional love transforms everything, in the outer life as well.
What’s money got to do with it?
As my colleague and I explored it in our conversation, we both felt that money truly does have something to do with it. That there is something about our relationship with the financial flow that we can learn from our journey into unconditional love.
I have been pondering it quite a bit since that conversation, and my sense that there really is a connection there only got stronger and clearer.
I believe that as we connect deeper with the source of unconditional abundance within, it can and will transform any experience of limitation (i.e. of not having enough money or any other resources and support) into an experience of fulfillment and abundance.
As I see it now, it is a similar transformation as the one I experienced with love, even if not an identical one. So let’s take a closer look at what we might be able to learn here.
There is a direct parallel between the outer expression and the inner reality.
Underlying the yearning for concrete expressions of love there is always a yearning for love itself. It is love itself that sustains us, not the loving hugs.
Similarly, underlying the yearning for concrete expressions of abundance (money, things, opportunities), there is always a yearning for feeling that abundance itself. It is the abundance itself that sustains us, not money as such.
There is very little understanding of the above in our culture. Our culture is fearfully obsessed by the material expression of wealth and abundance, counting the money, working for the money, constantly thinking about money, as if money really was making the world go round.
We are part of that culture, we are deeply affected by it, but then more and more of us are on our way to transcending it.
We are discovering that the opportunity we have is to re-connect with the inner source of abundance that really does make the world go round, and to experience whatever level of material wealth is right for us based on an abundance awareness.
Return to the knowing and feeling of the inner abundance
The first and the most important step here is to find, to connect, to return to the knowing and feeling of the inner abundance. To keep on exploring and strengthening that connection, until we understand with every fiber of our body that this is what truly sustains us, and this is what brings everything into existence for us.
And in doing so also to understand that money is not a thing, and it’s not a limited resource. Rather, it is an expression and a manifestation of the infinite abundance within.
Money is transformational
There is also another aspect of money. As I see it, money (along with relationships) is one of the most powerful ways in which transformational challenges are being brought into our human adventure. In that way financial challenges support our journey and our growth.
Now, even if we may realize the true nature of money and abundance in our more awakened moments, much of the time we tend to stay in the trance we’re in and see money as means of exchange and a limited resource, nothing more.
That is Okay. It is part of the awakening journey to keep falling asleep and then try to wake up again, and again.
So this is what we are doing here, now. Realizing that we keep falling asleep, and also exploring ways to awaken, to become more conscious – and with that more free and more joyful.
Because this is what our naked hearts are longing for – to give freely, to receive freely, and not to let anything come in the way of our infinitely abundantly flow.
So how can we liberate ourselves, how can we awaken to our abundant reality?
The inner work
There are, essentially, two aspects to the inner work that we are called to.
The first, most fundamental one, is to cultivate the deeper connection with the abundance energy as such. To feel it within. To know that it is here for us forever, and that everything that is here is here for us.
The second aspect is to acknowledge how abundance expresses itself in your world.
Just like the energy of love can express itself in our life in specific ways, including physical, similarly, the abundance energy can express itself in our life in specific ways, including in the form of money.
For some of us, it is very important to acknowledge and to relate to that aspect of abundance as well. To manifest money consciously, to work with diligently. It is such an important part of the human adventure.
And so while there isn’t particularly helpful to worry about money, to fear that there isn’t enough of it or to feel dependent on it, it is important to grow our ability to receive and to give money.
Just like we consciously expand our willingness to let love flow through us, and to express love, it is important to consciously expand our willingness to let abundance flow through us, and to express abundance. And that includes giving and receiving money. Consciously and abundantly.
Just like freeing ourselves from a false dependence on external love doesn’t mean neglecting love’s concrete expressions between people… in a similar way, freeing ourselves from a false dependence on external wealth doesn’t mean neglecting the concrete expressions of wealth between people. On the contrary.
It means embracing those concrete expressions with a more expanded consciousness of the infinite nature of abundance. It means being open to receive and to give money. It means allowing money to be what it truly is rather than what our culture makes it.
It absolutely is possible, even if not necessarily easy, to develop a more conscious relationship with money and to actually experience it as the infinite abundance materializing as physical or digital money, with concrete numbers attached to it.
In this process it is the numbers that are particularly challenging for most of us.
How can we deal with numbers and price tags?
Let’s see what we can learn from a concrete expression of love, such as a hug. It is not the form or the strength of the hug that defines the love flowing through it. Love itself is infinite.
Similarly, we can open to the understanding that given its infinite nature, abundance cannot be measured or counted. Whether the amount of money is big or small, it represents the same infinite abundance, manifesting from within.
On the other hand, the numbers are still part of our reality, and within the money game that we all participate in (paying bills, buying things etc.), numbers do make a difference. We cannot disregard that – and we don’t have to.
We can respect and participate in any monetary transaction, and we can learn to do it consciously. We are not bound by the idea of strict exchange in the way it is custom in our culture.
Let us, once again, see what we can learn in this regard from our experience of love and joy.
When we share our love and joy with each other, when it happens genuinely, directly from our open heart, we do it abundantly and without holding back. We don’t measure our smiles, hugs or any other expressions of it. It’s an expression that can vary in strength depending on how open we are and how open the recipient is, but hopefully it is not a matter of “something for something”.
So how can that translate into money paying for things, paying bills, and receiving payments as well?
It’s all about awareness, all about consciousness.
We are free to give money with the deep knowing that it is simply a symbolic expression of a loving, infinite abundance, regardless of the numbers involved. We are free to receive money in the same spirit.
And we can also acknowledge that if and when we experience less money than we would like to have at our immediate disposal, there are good reasons why infinite abundance aka life creates that experience for us.
This is important. The limiting experiences too are created for us. They are opportunities. They support us in confronting and addressing any energetical block any limiting beliefs we may have about money, about safety, about relationships, about work and whatever else may be relevant for us. They help us expand into a more conscious and more joyful way of living.
As for receiving money, it is up to us to remember and to expect that money given to us, for whatever reason, is given from a source that is abundantly flowing. It is not a sacrifice, it does not result in someone else having less, just like a hug is not depleting the giver from some limited “hug inventory”.
Even if we cannot immediately affect how others feel about transferring their money to us, we can still strive to maintain that higher vibration and that higher understanding of what is really going on. And what is really going on, while someone transfers their money to someone else’s bank account is this:
Both the sending and the receiving bank accounts are perfect illusions in this matrix, this dream world, this adventure. Both accounts are created out of the infinite abundance of a universe that creates that particular holographic experience for a reason. And it’s not that there is a shortage of manifesting ability in the universe. This really is something to remember even as we live in that manifested dream world.
Inviting others into the awakening journey
Besides practicing that awareness, there are also situations where we can affect the “exchange” a little bit more. For example, in my relationships with coaching clients and students, I intend to help them – just like I help myself – to tune in to that abundance before they transfer money to me, and then transfer it with that joyous abundant feeling, knowing that there is more than enough for all of us (and that is an understatement).
There are some other practical solutions that I’ll be offering clients as well, but the essence of it is to mutually recognize the abundance that is ours, including an abundance of love, wisdom, joy and money. And then support each other in expressing from there, within our possibilities and without holding back out of fear.
I have applied and coached quite successfully a similar approach in the past (the Busting Loose model) and I am doing it again although in different ways that I resonate with more now.
Even if manifestation can be experienced quite immediately, this is deep work and not something that happens overnight. I so enjoy it and I hope you will too. Here is the essence of it:
- Listen to your inner guidance
- Acknowledge and tune in to your abundance at all times. Feel its infinite energy, flowing through you and expressing itself as wealth, as money, as things, as services, as opportunities, as connections. This is really important, so work with that as much as you can.
- Acknowledge that limitation is transformational – it is but an invitation to address anything that it may trigger, and sometimes also just a way to get you on a specific path. Accept the invitation and do the work required.
- When giving, whether it is love, things or money, do it from the place in you that rejoices in giving, and doesn’t stop itself beyond the practical limitations mentioned above
- When receiving, whether it is love, things or money, do it from the place in you that knows that the one giving to you rejoices in giving, and doesn’t have to hold back beyond the limitations mentioned above
There is so much joy in knowing that whatever life brings us (and also when it doesn’t), happens for us, not to us.
There is so much joy in seeing the abundance that is manifested wherever we look, and to see it manifest itself as we follow our guidance and our heart’s desire.
There is infinite abundance. There is infinite love. There is infinite joy. This is our true reality.
Ready to dive deeper into joyful living?
This excerpt of the forthcoming book, “Awakening to Joyful Living”, is published here with permission. All Rights Reserved Halina Goldstein